Kink 'n' Ink

About Seska:

I’m polyamorous, pansexual and kinky and this my dears, is my blog.
Welcome to the blog of a strange girl in her own strange little world.

I’m a 29 year old nerd / geek / social reject by choice.
Some people would describe me as a BBW (yes that is a euphemism for fat).
I have a big mouth but go shy if you push the right buttons.
I absolutely worship anything with werewolves in it (go fanged furbals!). Love to read, watch too many series and love cuddling up on the sofa with my cat James T. Kirk.
I have a soft spot for geeky, nerdy and unusual people.

I really value open-minded people, honesty and I think communication is the key in _any_ relationship.
Be it friends, lovers, family, coworkers. Really when there’s people involved I think most issues can be resolved with words, attention to each other and an open mind.

What I’m doing with my life

I pay my bills by working in the social field. Next to that try and finish my bachelors degree. I’m hoping to be done in 2010.

My private life consists of me trying to live my life the way I want to and not the way society thinks I should.

I’m a pinup model. Yes there are naked pictures floating around. No I don’t think they degrade fat women, I think it empowers the fact that fat is just another body trait (like being a brunette, tall or having small feet) that should be percieved for it’s beauty

I don’t believe in monogamy, but I don’t believe in secrecy and cheating either.
For me polyamory is my truth when it comes to love and relationships. I am attempting to get the Dutch poly community more organized, but everyone is still hiding so it seems.

I’m really good at:

Procrastination, cuddling, teaching myself useless crap, listening, talking, being myself, pretending to be a kitty, organising, gaming.

The first things people usually notice about me:

• My size; I’m fat, the f-word is feared by most but embraced by me. And as a descriptive word it ‘fits’ me perfectly.
  Dont expect me to lose or gain any weight (for you).
  Do expect me to fight for the rights of flabulous people and educate the world about how fat doesn’t mean unhealthy.

• I’m honest, to the point of being blunt; I will tell you what my problem with your attitude is and I expect you to do the same. I’ve been told I can come across harsh and blunt. Just point this out to me if it bothers you and I’ll tone it down.

• Respect; I have a endless amount of respect for the choices and ideology people have in their life. I might not agree with you, but I respect your view. I can only hope people will be open enough to do the same in return.

My favorite…

…Books:
I love reading, I’ll read anything just to see if I think it’s worth reading (which after you’ve already read it, yeah… I know, I’m insane). I especially love (auto)biographies, horror and gore, I also love writing and reading erotica. I’m also into BookCrossing.

…Writers:
(I tend to go by writer more as by genre) Charlaine Harris, Isaac Asimov, Phillip K. Dick, H.P. Lovecraft, E.A. Poe, Kelley Armstrong, Stephen King, Clive Barker, etcetera…

…Comics:
Due to financial situations I had to stop collecting comics (*cry*). I still have a hefty case of Image comics (#1 issue Spawn anyone ? ), did collect the 9 special edition Serenity covers (and the paperback version to read, lol the others are staying airtight ) and I still love some of the more mainstream graphic stuff (Elfquest, etc). I did find a replacement in Web comics Questionable Content, Girls with Slingshots,Queen of Wands.

…Music:
I think I listen to a semi eclectic assortment of stuff, though I gotta admit, it’s all in the “harder” section. Metal, punk, hardcore, emo… I love concerts and festivals and used to have a radio program with said “harder” music.

…Games:
Cardgames! (Netrunner, Werewolf, Magic, I dont care, cards are teh hot!) Boardgames! (with friends, I love the strategic shit like Settlers and Risk).
Consoles… Yeah, that’s probably a biiiiig weakness: I <3 consoles. I own a Atari 2600, NES, PS2, xbox 360 and I kinda think my handhelds also fly.
I also LOVE PC games, especially MMO’s. Kicking that habit lately though and I’ve stopped actively playing any of them.
Love actual pen & paper RPG’s but for some reason no one around here plays any good ones And I’m not a big D&D fan, so it’s tough to find people that want to play oh, I dunno, a crossbreed between Firefly and Werewolf I mean, werewolves in steampunk space!

…Movies:
Sam Raimi, Joss Whedon, Kevin Smith, Brian Yuzna, Tim Burton, David Lynch, John Waters, Wes Anderson. Next to that I am a huge sucker for Horror and Sci-fi. I’m not as much of a fantasy fan, only the darker side.

…Series:
Gheh, insert standard geekery: Firefly, Buffy, Angel, Reaper, Ugly Betty, Chuck, Heroes, Supernatural, Psych!, Star Trek, The 4400, The IT-Crowd, Office UK, House, Medium, Dexter, Prison Break, True Blood, Doctor Who, Torchwood, MST3K, Cinematic Titanic.