First Contact (5 practical tips on scaring away a Dominant)

Nope, it’s not about Star Trek.

So, let’s say you’re a submissive guy, looking for a Dominant woman and you stumble over my profile on say, fetlife or collarme. Something catches your attention, maybe a picture, or my profile text.

Unfortunately I’ve noticed lately that just the sheer fact of being a chick and identifying as Dominant is enough for most men…

Now I know that you’re dieing to know what you should do to ensure that I will not send you any response back.
So here you go, a easy step by step guide on how to make sure that your First Contact with me (or most Dominants for that matter) will be a total and utter failure:

1) Whatever you do, do not read my profile.
If you would read my profile you would know more about me and where is the fun in that?! If you read my profile you might actually be able to take some interest in me beyond that of me as a distant lust-fed fantasy. Next to that my profile probably holds some information on what I and am not looking for. Make sure you ignore these ‘minor details’ since they will just hold you back in writing a message.

2) Make sure that you address me as ‘Mistress, Mrs, Ma’am, Queen, Amazone Warrior Princess’ or the dutch equivalents (Meesteres, Mevrouw, etc).
Addressing me in that way will make me think less of you, in the bad way. Respect (and the title going with it) is something that is earned. I’ll tell you how I want you to address me if we even get to that point. Odds are, if you called me Mistress in the first message, that we won’t get to that point.

3) Tell me a random fantasy you have about you and me, describe it in detail and be specific on how horny you get from it.
The only thing this does is show me how desperate you really are… I get it, life is rough as a single submissive guy, but don’t push your fantasies onto me straight away. Fantasies are usually better being just that, a fantasy. besides, topping from the bottom is not cool.

4) Do not write a creative message.
Please do copy and paste your standard desperate slaveboy message. I can tell that you’ve just altered the names and hit send to me and about 30 other Dominants within 2 minutes to spread your winning chance. Thing is, a impersonal copied message does not sell you as a person at all.

5) End the message with ‘your slave, humbly yours’ or other possessive  descriptions.
By ending the message in that way, you are assuming I even want you. Never assume. Also, it makes you look like that ridiculous kid in the classroom that tries to hard to be liked and ends up being ignored by everyone.

There you go, 5 easy steps to creating a winning instance of first contact!