Kink 'n' Ink

Here is the only catch: I will not tell you I want to bottom to you. You have to push my buttons and figure it out. If I have to tell you I want to bottom to you then it is a good chance I will never sub to you and I’ll only bottom to you on rare occasions. I need my top/Dom to be able to read me from the beginning. I have no problem speaking my mind or sharing what I need, but that first meeting is a dance. That first meeting involves a kinky tango of thoughts and desires swimming around in my head to see who is the leader.

Now thát is exactly how it works for me and it probably explains a lot about why, despite being in the BDSM scene for over 10 years, I have only bottomed about 10 times and had a whopping total of 1 experience in which I actually submitted to someone.

It might not be fair to ‘demand’ the person that is Dominating / Topping me knows me from the start.
We all come with a manual and having others figure out mine is a pain in the butt for them. If I’d be at work I’d tell my clients ‘it’s easier if you explain your manual to me so I can actually interact with you in a productive way’. That’s work though and work to me doesn’t compare to relationships with such a intense bond as I need in a D/s or T/b.

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In roughly 51 hours it’s 2011.
Which leaves me just that amount of hours to look back on 2010.
A year with ups and downs but in all a year that ended quite well for me.
I learned a lot, taught others a lot and really came that much closer to how I want my life to be.

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“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.”
- Buddha

“It was like summer camp, when it started, I didn’t know my place and if I’d fit in.
When it ended I just didn’t want to go home.”
- Seska

The quotes above just describes the entire experience I had yesterday during the The Usual Suspects Unconference (TUS).

First of all a HUGE thanks to the facilitators of what I can already call the best conference I’ve ever been to in my life up till now (TUS 2011 might beat it, hahaha).
Second a HUGE thanks to all the people that where there during the day, I think it was a grand total of around 50 / 60 people that participated and I feel proud and honored to have been one of you guys.

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WOOOOOOT! Finally some action here in Amsterdam

Lovely people have started the initiative to get together a GRUE type unconference in the Netherlands.
I’ve always been envious of the US for the awesome activities people develop there and it’s great to know we can probably pull this off in the Netherlands as well

I’ve ordered and paid for my ticket. Unfortunately I can only make it to the day part and not to the playparty (I already had tickets to the Of Montreal concert the same night ) but hey, at least I can get some of the knowledge sharing action in, yay!

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Recently a friend of mine pointed me towards a interesting link with a diverse collection of Male Submission Images.
It’s a Tumblr blog that’s being updated by the ever awesome maymay who also hosts the hilarious (and very informative!) podcast: Kink on Tap.

So much eye candy but some of the images just spoke more and I wanted to figure out why.

In an effort to explain the sexiness I present you with some of my brain droppings on these awesome pictures, in no particular order.

A young boy, barely 25 probably listening to hipster indie music and wearing obscure t-shirts.
His hair, the glasses, the pretentious pin on his shirt, it all screams ‘emo’ to me. I don’t mind the indie / emo crowd, but this guy has an aura of pretentiousness over him that makes me want to face slap him until he jizzes his pants.

What I love about this image is quite simple: His look of ‘I disagree but dammit I don’t have any say in this’, the tape over his mouth telling us all what he should be thinking / saying and the noose around his neck.
This kid knows he fucked up and that he’ll have to take the consequences, he’ll take them in pride though and that’s something I love seeing in a submissive.

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